Question by : It has already been a year, how do I stop missing someone?
I had a relationship with someone for many years; thought I would spend the rest of my life with this person. One day they decided to throw me out, out of the blue. Then they went on a several month drug binge (they had been in recovery previous to that). Since then, they have been very violent towards me – they spit in my face the last time I spoke to them about getting my things back. Quite frankly, I don’t care about the things.

Thing is, I miss them. I know on one hand, I should consider myself lucky that I didn’t end up spending my life with someone who could throw me out at the drop of a hat, and who relapse into drug use. I know they obviously, don’t care about me as much as I cared about them. That’s all in the head. I can’t get my heart on the same page. Instead of missing them less overtime, I miss them more. And I don’t know how to get over the fact that I don’t know what I did to deserve being treated this way.

I’m just a mess most days on the inside. I’ve tried talking to people about it, but they don’t seem to understand that I’m having a hard time coping, so I’ve stopped ever bringing it up. I’m tired of being hurt and heart broken most of the time, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?
I know it makes no sense. I can’t get my head and my heart in line with each other.
I know it makes no sense. I can’t get my head and my heart in line with each other.

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Answer by Paul
Sorry, but it has been 52 years since my grandfather left and I have not stopped missing him. I just focus on something else to get my mind off him. I can only think about one thing at a time.

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